I have been on one hell of a support kick lately. My friend Vicki got herself a gym membership at Ballys. She has been going for almost 5 months now and she has lost something like 56 pounds. Now when I heard that she was going I was a little sad that I hadn't the money to go as well, but I was very proud of Vicki for all that she had accomplished. But somehow the Universe agreed that I needed to loose some weight, cause out of the blue the money was there for me to join as well. (Nothing like the UNIVERSE saying you have a huge ass now do something about it)!

I still haven't seen any results that can compare to my dear friend. Every week she is loosing 2 pounds or so. However I let her know that I am proud of her, and I give her honest critiques. When she asks me if I can see her result I don't blow smoke up her ass if I don't.  But as of late, every week she looks like a new woman. She is very honest with me as well. She has yet to see any results from me. I hardly see anything myself.  But she is supportive as well, she told me to stop obsessing over the numbers on the scale and to measure myself instead. So I did, and so far I have been going for a month and I have lost 1 inch around the abdomen, 1/2 inch on my arms, 1 inch around my waist, and my thighs I gained an inch (ALL MUSCLE BABY!!! I think). Not as much as I would have liked but it is what it is.  

My friend has a co worker Laura who is constantly pissed that she hasn't lost as much as my friend Vicki. She is truly angry that she hasn't lost anything. But she hardly ever goes to the gym and she is constantly eating the wrong foods. Laura has gotten to the point that she has busted out yelling "I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE" in the office whenever anyone gives Vicki a complement. Vicki has begun to feel bad about the fact that she has lost some much weight (not cool). The messed up part to this is that Vicki in the last month has lost her husband. He has decided to leave her for someone else. So she has been going through a lot of stress and hard ache. Laura knows this and is fed up with people wishing Vicki well. SHE'S A TRUE HARPY!    Even when she knows that not only is she loosing her husband, but her house as well. Laura still can't see that maybe she should have some compassion for Vicki and be selfless for once.

Anyway, I have tried to help Vicki by keeping her going to the gym and working on herself in a positive way (gave her my copy of The Secret). We go everyday except on Friday's. I don't like to workout so much, but I know that Vicki getting out of the house and working out keeps her occupied on her health then on her husband leaving, and loosing her house. We always talk about what she's feeling and I make it a point to keep my ears, and my heart open for her. I try always to see the bright side to her situation and I try to make laughing a huge part of helping her in this time. The unexpected part is that I‘ve begun to notice a side affect for me. Since I too am going to the gym and although I haven't seen the results that I want to see. The results of taking care and supporting my friend through this rough patch is helping me in a spiritual way. I can see the hand of the Devine Goddess guiding me with the right words to help Vicki. I'm crying now L because I went through the same thing that Vicki is going through right now and although my husband didn't leave me for another woman (he almost did), and I was loosing my house as well. I didn't have anyone who was there to help me. So in that way it is different. But since I can relate to a lot of what she is feeling I have noticed this experience is defiantly making our friendship stronger and teaching us how we can overcome a lot, be it weight, Property, and or heartache.

The Goddess gives you the words to help one another and sometime that's all that's needed.  

Remember to help family, friends, and strangers when you can. The good feelings you get are worth it!

Blessed be